The Return of the Narcissist: What Happens Now? These types are far from being emotionally honest and always want to leave the door open just in case they may want to give it a knock somewhere down the road. They will never give you closure because they are not interested in your feelings or how you’re dealing with their betrayal. In many cases like this, the ghosting is permanent or semi-permanent and you may never hear from them again or it will be a long, long time before you do. They will tell themselves things like, ‘I didn’t care about her anyway,” and they will not feel a lick of remorse. A Narcissist will ghost you in this circumstance because they aren’t interested in being berated or having to fess up that their behavior was less than stellar. They Don’t Want To Face the Consequences: Sometimes the jig is up and the light of day has fallen on all of their relationship crimes. You will be left completely in the dark, because if it doesn’t work out they want to be able to come back to your understanding arms. They may want to ascertain whether or not this supply is better than you and if they should replace you. If another catches their fancy they will want to experience that person and get a good feed in without having to deal with you. In this case an opportunity will present itself and they cannot help but take advantage of it. Sometimes they see something, they want it and they act without much thought to the consequences. Seeking Out New Supply: In my dealings with Narcissists I’ve been able to understand that, quite often, their behavior can be very impulsive. By the time I’m done with your training you will expect very little from me and will have learned to keep your mouth shut. I will press all of your buttons and hit all of the triggers I have skillfully gathered while you thought I was just getting to know you. If you behave and ignore all of what you’re seeing and feeling I will stay and continue to terrorize you some more, but if you behave badly, by questioning my horrendous behavior and are displeased by it, I will leave you feeling responsible and terrified that I will never return.
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Psychological/Manipulation Technique to Train You How to Behave: The goal here is to teach you how to behave by using a simple negative reinforcement technique. Bottom line is they want you to suffer and they feed off of your pain. Don’t you know who you’re dealing with? ‘I’ll show you just how awful challenging me can be and trust me you won’t like one bit of it,’ is generally their mantra. Punishment: This is usually the main reason for a Narcissist to ghost you. The purpose of the silent treatment is multifaceted and usually consists of several of the following reasons. With a Narcissist the silent treatment is their opportunity to incite psychological warfare. With healthy couples this cooling off period will usually be followed by more dialogue, apologies and making up. When we’re upset with someone, sometimes we need to take a few and be by ourselves to calm down and clear our heads. This is usually the spot where their feelings switch from having over-evaluated their interest in you to devaluing you. Their filter is so twisted and damaged that by the end of it they are wondering if perhaps you are not quite as special as they once thought. They do not want you getting too close to the real them and they do not want you to get too close to the truth. They’ll get angry, pick a fight and somehow make all of their bad behavior your fault.
When cornered, like a rat, a Narcissist will not cower, but will go on the attack.
When the partner of a Narcissist starts realizing that things just aren’t adding up and they start asking a lot of questions, a Narcissist will get very defensive. Ghosting, the silent treatment, the disappearing act, radio silence – no matter what you call it, when your partner makes the decision to cut you off that’s a huge flag that speaks volumes about the kind of person you’re involved with and it’s a very tangible act that requires your immediate attention.
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